Dear MIMsters: My Parents Will Not Give Me Their Consent But I Have a Plan
My boyfriend has proposed to me. I have accepted his proposal but the problem I am having to deal with is my parents. They have refused to give me their consent because of where he comes from. He is from Isialangwa North, Ntiga in Abia State, while I am from Ebonyi State.
They don’t even want to know him, so they do not know who he is. I have asked them what where he is from has to do with anything but they tell him they don’t know him or anything about him but they have heard that they eat humans as a delicacy in their place.
I was surprised because I have not heard of that before. I had to go to his village myself to do some fact checking but did not find any. I am insisting on my choice of husband but my parents are hell bent on sticking to their goons. I really really love him and he is getting tired of my parent’s attitude as this has been going on for up to two years.
I am thinking of telling my parents that I am pregnant. Nobody should tell me that they are disappointed because I can’t really stand losing my man just because of their useless and unfounded excuse. Will I be wrong to tell my parents that I am pregnant for my fiancé? I am really losing it as this issue is affecting my whole life. I can’t just concentrate anymore. You ask me to pray? I have been praying and crying to God and to even my parents and my relatives but they are so selfish and only focused on what their friends, family and others will say without a single consideration for how I feel.
Should I go ahead with my plan? I need your advice.
What an old man sees sitting down, a young man can’t see standing on a tree abi how them dey talk am sef.
I was in a similar situation like this and yes, I did the same thing. I tried to convince my parents to no avail. I prayed, fasted and cried to God and he still didn’t change his mind We spoke to our pastor, family elders and other respectable people to get my dad to change his mind but he refused. Unlike you, I had no explanation whatsoever why I couldn’t marry him. He hadn’t even seen my boyfriend but will just not agree. It was so frustrating. Finally, it was one of my uncles who stood in and ‘forced’ him to accept but by that time, I had already gotten pregnant for my boyfriend and bore him a son whilst staying with my parents. My dad wanted me to marry someone else even if I had a child with him. We are happily married now with 3 kids. We had the traditional marriage and then white wedding but my relationship with my family especially dad has not been the same again. He avoids any event that brings us together and my husband too is so bitter about what he went through just to marry me. It hurts me and I really wish we could bond together as two families.
Pls talk to your pastor or some respectable persons your parents respect to talk to them on your behalf, it might work for you and don’t cease praying because it’s only God who can change a person’s heart. Good luck
This is a very stupid reason to deprive someone of her happiness.
dont get pregnant fr him just lie abt d pregnancy