I am afraid no one else would want to marry me after this…
I am 32 years old and I’ve been married for 8 years now with two lovely girls aged 7 and 6. The problem with my marriage and husband has been from the foundation. I thought it would get better as the years go by but it hasn’t.
Hubby and I do not make decisions together. He makes decisions with his mum. I could be sick at home for days and he would not even ask what’s wrong with me until he gets to hear from outsiders.
What hurts me the most is when I sometimes travel because of my work, if I don’t call him while I am away, he will never call to check on me. If I ask him why he doesn’t show concern, he will tell me he knows I am a strong woman and will be Ok.
The house we live in is in the name of his mother and I am only a witness. He jointly did it with her. I am not a part of any decision taken in the house.
I see married couples everyday and I know mine is not great as we don’t even sleep in the same room. Hubby comes to my room only when he wants to have sex and leaves afterwards. It is not like he is the only breadwinner in the family. I support 80 percent of the expenses at home, yet, I feel so lonely.
I have complained to pastors who have called hubby to speak with him but the issue is still the same. I now feel we were never meant for each other from the onset. We got married because I got pregnant. However, since then, I have tried my best to make it work.
Last night, I called hubby and told him I want a separation as I am not OK with all that is happening and he agreed, saying if that will make me happy. He also said that he will be OK if the children go with me but can visit him on weekends. I was surprised at how he easily accepted my decision.
My fear is will anyone marry a woman who already has two kids and what will people say especially the church as I am very active church member? I am fully employed and have other businesses as well and can therefore take care of myself and the kids which I am already doing.