Clergywoman Funke Adejumo Educates Single Ladies On How To Behave When Visiting Their Parents In-law For The First Time, Nigerians React

Nigerians on social media are reacting to a video of famous clergywoman, Funke Adejumo educating single ladies intending to get married on how to behave when visiting their parents-in-law for the first time.

While preaching recently in her church, the accomplished Female Enthusiast and Philanthropist said;

“As a woman, when you are going on that first trip, you don’t go with a gift or something too big, maybe just a basket of fruits or a wrapper for mama.

When you get there, depending on your culture. In my culture, we kneel to greet elders. As a Yoruba girl, you will kneel down and remain on your knees and let your eyes look down.

It’s not that you will be staring at the mama and the baba and everybody there, Let them tell you to stand up before you stand up.

Even if you are an extrovert, please pretend that day.”

The preacher who have been married for over three decades further stated that whenever the guy’s parents ask the lady to stand up, she advised that the lady should ensure she sits on the very first seat.

She continued:

“Don’t walk around the length of the house. Just enter and sit down. When you sit down, you may not realise, they may be watching you from the keyhole because you have gone there for your entrance exam. Your own is more than the man.

Remember what you wear will not be something you will be looking for a scarf and then one high heel show that will make you shake. Be as comfortable as possible. Not that your cleavage, everything is opened.

If you must look around, turn your eyes, not your head. If they ask you any question, answer briefly.”

She went on to advise that ladies should not interject in any discussion the would-be parents-in-law are having. Adejumo advised against finishing the meal served. She counseled:

“If the meat is tough, don’t pull it. Just leave it like that and make sure no oil spills on your dress. Carry your plate.”

She went on to say ‘’why Am I pretending, someone would say, she answered ‘No I am being diplomatic’. She added:

“Carry the plate, go to the kitchen and wash. Some of you, you go to your boyfriend’s house and you wash your plates, We are talking about your in-laws now.”

Her advice has elicited reactions on social media. While some agree with her, others argue that they rather be themselves than pretend just to get any approval from their would-be in-laws.

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See the various reactions below…

Reacting to the tweet above, self-acclaimed life coach, Solomon Buchi, tackled the lady for kicking against Pastor Funke Adejumo’s teaching.

He argued that all the clergywoman said was just basic life rules that people should follow. He went on to say he feels sorry for the men who will marry women with such mentality. He wrote:

‘’Shut up! I am absolutely tired of how women plaster misogyny on everything. That video is basically talking about social decorum, comportment and etiquette in the culture of the Nigerian society be it Igbo, Hausa or Yoruba.

You need to be accepted by the family you are married into. It’s not something that will happen every time but it is better that you are.

If you are going to meet your in-laws for the first time, you need to comport yourself. What is misogyny? What is if they are going to test me with all these weird rules? What is that?!

What is misogynistic about you having to not drag meat, spill oil everywhere, you having to be comported? What really is misogynistic about that? ‘’

He said the same rules apply to men as well as they have to comport themselves whenever they visit their in-laws for the first time.

@Chris:

Not a bad advice. Would be in law should also be patient and teach with love and be realistic in assessing would be daughter in law! Some families are suffocating !

@Beckonny:

This Pastor of Culture assumes (1) first time meetings with his parents will end in marriage; (2) that even though the intending couple has been together for a considerable length of time and with all the modern transport she has not been able to visit his parents cos they live miles into the bush; (3) that she must kneel and remain on two knees until she’s told otherwise; (4) women of today are desperate and will do anything to marry; (5) all Yorubas are of her own inferior background and mentality; and (6) culture is more important than the “god” she serves.

@Hannan:

Culturizing marriages instead of simply following the commands of God who ordained marriages is why marriages are falling apart.