”It’s not your responsibility to take care of your parents and it’s NOT their right. You owe them nothing” – Activist Bisi Alimi
Nigerian gay rights activist, public speaker and HIV/LGBT advocate, Bisi Alimi, has written an epistle telling Nigerians that it is not their responsibility to take care of their aged parents, neither is it the right of their parents.
According to him, a child owes his/her parent nothing, as he/she never begged them to have sex.
He went further to disclose that a child, is not an old age pension scheme, and also urged Nigerians not to succumb to emotional blackmail from their parents, or they would milk them dry.
In a post shared on Facebook, Alimi, Nigeria’s first openly-gay man, wrote:
”Nigerians, doomed financial vicious circle is when your parents brought you up so you can be their cow to milk, while you look forward to doing same to your children.
I understand that the system is fucked, pension money is being embezzled by stupid greedy politicians, the same ones you worship and bow to, and there is no guarantee for old age, but fuck, the system won’t fix itself. If you don’t resist, you will be consumed.
The idea that it is the responsibility of the struggling young to take care of the struggling old is a myth sold to you by the corrupt politicians who have stolen the resources of your commonwealth.
Remember, one rich man among 100 poor men will eventually end up being poor. You only have two commitments in life; yourself and your children and that’s until they are old enough to be kicked out of the house.”
”You do not, I repeat, you do not owe your parents any pay back unless you are still living with them, which means get the fuck out or start paying rent and bills. Remember, you didn’t beg them to have sex, they wanted to have children, it’s their choice, you should not be there old age pension scheme.
Only do it if you can and have the resources to, but even with that, know the limit or they will emotionally blackmail you and milk you dry. Have I said good morning already?”
He is right about parents using their kids as old age pension scheme. Most Nigerian parents have kids because they want someone who would care for them when they are old. I am not saying one shouldn’t care for their parents, but the way Nigerian parents take this thing, is as tho the sole aim of having kids is so that they can milk them dry when they are grown. I don’t expect my kids to take care of me when I am old, I won’t black mail them to. Children should be able to do what they can for their parents and not the parents forcing it down their throats.
gibberish…den ur parents owe u nothing and should never have trained u up.
gibberish.den our parents dont need to train us instead dey should save up the money the would have used in training us for their old age