Dear MIMsters: My Brother’s Kids Need Me But His Wife Blames Me
I am living with my brother, his wife and their two kids, both boys in a one room apartment. She blames me for everything going wrong.
We usually have problems as expected but we have always settled it. I have never maltreated my SIL for once or insulted her. Rather, she is the one who always finds fault in everything I do.
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I had earlier planned to leave their home before my brother called me aside to tell me this, yesterday morning. He told me that he found out that his wife is having an affair. Not only that, she is also pregnant for this guy she’s having an affair with and wants to marry him.
She said since my brother has not paid her bride price. She said the reason why she did what she did is because of the problems she is having with my family because of me. And that my brother does not talk like the man of the house. I don’t know the problems she is talking about.
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I have never maltreated her and she is the one who scares me away with her attitude.
Now, she wants to move in with the guy. My brother has been pleading with her not to leave him but she has refused to stay. I finally left the house today to know if they will settle this issue in my absence.
I never excepted this infidelity from her. Is it my fault? Should I stay back and take care of the kids when she is gone? I need your sound advice.
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If you have a place to go, then leave them and see if she leaves or stay. If she leaves, then go back if not, stay away from them.
Leave the house first then if they don’t sort things out between themselves, you can go back.
Technically, she is not his wife. She is pregnant for another man and feeling unrepentant. Your brother should let her go and bear the consequences of is poor choices by having children outside wedlock. U have your life to live except you have given up on having your own home someday.
well! from my assessment your brother’s wife is leaving because he has not paid her bride price not because of you. meanwhile you can leave if they will settle!
Definitely the issue on ground can’t be settled and I wonder why your brother is begging her. Does he want to keep her and take care of another man’s baby? I think you should stop meddling into your brother’s affairs, leave him and his wife to sort themselves out, if he needs your assistance you may step in. By the way don’t you have anything that keeps you busy, like schooling or a job? Pls concentrate on building your own future.
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