5 Signs You Are In A Destructive Marriage

Ineh Olisah

Did you get married to live the rest of your life in happiness or in pain? While a marriage may not be hundred perfect, certain conditions endured in a toxic marriage may ultimately become destructive to your  sense of self or your life as a whole.

More importantly, condoning abusive behavior creates a toxic environment in the home and often perpetuates a continued cycle of abuse for future generations if children witness or experience the abuse.

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1. Financial abuse

Financial abuse is one of the most common forms of abuse in marriage. When your spouse insists on controlling all of the money and limiting your access to the family funds, or making you ask (or even beg) for every dollar you need to make necessary purchases, this is a coercive form of control and abuse.

2. Emotional abuse

Emotional abuse is just as serious as physical abuse—and it’s unacceptable. But, as women, we sometimes disregard our inner knowing for too long in hopes of bringing things back to the way they once were. If that sounds familiar, you’re not in a good place to make the best decision for yourself—or to extricate yourself from the situation. However, if you’re in a toxic marriage and this has gone on for years, you do need the help of a trained professional and a support network that can help steer you onto a clear, safe path.

3. A chronic cheat

He cheats, you forgive him and he cheats again. Even the bible recognises cheating or infidelity as a deal breaker, hence divorce is allowed. Infidelity destroys trust and leaves a deep wound in the heart of your significant other. It opens the door sexually transmitted diseases.

4. Makes you feel worthless

Your spouse should be your biggest encourager; not your biggest critic! If there’s perpetual criticism in the marriage, then it’s no longer a marriage. This is a form of emotional abuse.

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5. Physical abuse

Hitting, slapping, kicking, belting or any kind of assault are all forms of physical abuse which should be reported. If you safety is important to you, then move out of that unsafe environment. There are endless real-life stories of women who have lost their lives to abusive partners. Some of those who survived to their tell the story have been scarred for life.