4 Dads Share: Should Dads Be In The Labour Ward?

In recent times, dads are getting more actively involved in pregnancy and childbirth. For us at MIM, this is quite an interesting trend. We asked a few media shy dads if witnessing that anguishing process that facilitates welcoming their cute bundles of joy is a standard all dads should embrace or not, and why. Read their reactions below.

Emmanuel Molukwu, dad to Chukwunonso

The differing opinions that may arise as a result of cultural differences notwithstanding, my answer is an emphatic ”YES!” Dads should be in the labour ward with their wives to lend some support.

I was fortunate to be with my wife in the delivery room when our daughter was born and this presented me with an opportunity to witness firsthand what women go through during delivery. It helped me appreciate the pains and ”torture” they go through to bring our children into the world better. My presence also boosted my wife’s confidence and while she was in pains, we held hands and prayed to God for the grace and strength to keep going till our baby is born.

I recall that at a point, my wife was pushing and as soon as we saw our daughter’s hair and informed her how close she was to pushing her head out, she was encouraged and decided to keep pushing instead of resting for a few minutes like she had previously decided. It was a wonderful experience in all. Nothing in the world can substitute the joy of witnessing the birth of your child into this world.

Wale Dosunmu, dad of two

Yeah, I think so. Though some men might not be able to stand it at some point. However, it’s okay. At least, dads should be there for the period they can keep their emotions in check.

In my case, I actually shed tears at some point because I just couldn’t stand seeing my wife in so much pain. She had to be induced, and I found myself wishing there was something magical I could do to alleviate the hassles she was going through.

At some point also, I was scared to my teeth but overall, I think that my presence gave my wife more faith and strength to carry through. I think being in the labour ward is a lot better than pacing the waiting area in anticipation. What’s more? You’ll value your wife and baby a lot more and your wife will be appreciative of the moral support.

Kehinde Aregbola, dad of five

 Well, I’m a very traditional man and really don’t see the use. Besides, I can’t stand the sight of so much blood. Having played my part financially, all I can do is pray for a pleasant and safe delivery.

My wife has never asked me to be present at any of our children’s birth; maybe it’s because she already knows my likely reaction and she doesn’t love me any less for it.

Lekan Siyanbola, dad of one

I was in the labour ward with my wife and strongly feel other dads should follow suit. First, being there creates that strong emotional connection with your baby instantly; you hear his first cry, get to carry him there and then, you’ll feel so proud that you were instrumental to creating and welcoming the cute bundle in your hands.

Most importantly, your wife draws plenty of strength to bear the ordeals of childbirth from you. My wife drew strength from my moral support, we even pushed and cried together. I admit it was tough but my cheerleading made the severe pains she was having more bearable and I was really proud of her. I appreciate her even more.

I also think in the Nigerian context, your presence makes everyone more conscious and attentive, knowing there’s a concerned, conscious and alert person watching their actions and inactions. Overall, it’s a beautiful experience every caring dad should witness.

What’s your take?

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