UPDATE: Daughter In-law Debunks 85 Year Old Bolaji Isaac’s Claim of Being Rejected by her Children

Yesterday, reports about Bolaji Isaac, surfaced online alleging she was abandoned by her five children. You will recall that Bolaji claimed none of her children was willing to accommodate her (read here).

However, one of her daughters in-law, name withheld, who sounded very emotional gave exclusive details to MIM regarding the issue.

Read below…

”Please MIM, help me post this ASAP. My MIL wants to visit but my hubby refused letting her know where we stay including all his siblings because he said they may want to bring mama. What really happened was that my MIL gave birth to 5 boys all for different men meaning all of them are of different fathers and my hubby is the 4th. When I was about getting married to my husband, I used to visit her once in a while. Then, she was staying with one of her children.

I really wanted her to visit once in a while after the marriage but my husband said he has vowed to never allow her visit him because of the way mama treated his brother’s wife, (always picking up quarrel with the lady and causing fight between husband and wife), to the extent that he beats his wife and after the fight, mama will come out to say that the wife didn’t do what she was accused of but she had to say that so that her son can act.

She had even accused the lady of poisoning her which led to her leaving the place. She told my husband that his brother’s wife beats her up which angered my husband who threatened to call the police to arrest her if she tries it again, but to my hubby’s utmost surprise, mama called back to say all was a lie that she just did that to get him (my husband) to act.

All these made my husband come to the conclusion to never allow mama come to his place. Even when I give birth, she wasn’t allowed to visit. But the problem is that mama is on my own neck to force my hubby to allow her visit as she claims my own mother too visits, meanwhile my mother doesn’t have that time, she stays in her house, when I gave birth, it was even my eldest sister that came for the Omugwo as my mum is old and claims she’ll be adding to my wahala.

We live in a very big house and I’m sure if MIL visits she’ll not want to leave again. I don’t want to be a bad DIL but I’m afraid of the outcome if she comes, as my husband says if I should force him against his will, I’ll suffer the consequences alone and he may start beating me because of the possible lies mama might start telling against me, as it has happened before. Once, mama accused me of turning her son against her and not allowing her to visit, then, she called my mother and husband to lie that I insulted her but thank God my hubby was at home but she didn’t know he was listening to our conversation.

Note, she only gave birth to my husband but dropped him for my FIL. My FIL single-handedly took care of him since when he was a baby till fully grown. My husband always refer to his dad as both his mum and dad which causes him to have no preference whatsoever for his mum. Now, the mum has no where to stay because the person she’s putting up with has started complaining (a total stranger that she told her tale of woe to). Now she’s reporting all her children about by going to the media, Human Rights, police etc.

And whenever I go to visit her, I take money and provisions from my husband and others but no one wants her in their home. The people around will start talking and telling me that she’s still the one that gave birth to my hubby no matter what. I even suggested old people’s home since she said she wants it, that she doesn’t want to go back to the village as suggested by the children but none of them wants to risk signing and standing in for her because of her wahala.

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My hubby keeps saying it is only one of the children she had, she catered for ( the one she was formally staying with who happens to be the 3rd), so that one should go and stand in for her but there’s been no response yet. Mama is old and if anything should happen to her what will people say about her children and their wives especially me because she calls me every now and then and tells people that I ‘m the only different one maybe because I give her more attention.

I’m confused because I love this woman as I would love my own parent but don’t know what to do to help her as she’s wasting away and FIL said I should do as my hubby pleases but we should still take care of her which we are doing. They’ve even rented a place for her before but she fought with the landlady and was given quit notice. I need advice from mums and dads in the house because this issue is degenerating and getting out of hand as different organisations keeps calling my hubby and his other brother.”

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