Dear MIMsters: I’m Standing up to my Husband’s Baby Drama. Am I Being Selfish or Fighting for my Right?
Am I being selfish? I dated my husband for five years before we got married. During these years, I prayed a lot for God to open his way and he did. We have been through thick and thin together. Finally, he got a job abroad while I worked and lived in Nigeria.
I paid him a visit once. His family officially met my family while he was away and we planned to have our honeymoon in Paris where he proposed to me. During our stay in Paris, I checked his computer and found out another woman was pregnant for him. I brought up the issue and he apologised. He promised me it won’t affect our union and then we got married officially in Nigeria.
He travelled back and his pregnant woman abroad delivered a baby girl. Now, the problem is he posted his baby’s picture on BBM and I deleted him. Seeing this child doesn’t make me happy. He used his baby’s picture as his profile on WhatsApp and we argued about it. He accuse me of blocking and sharing his happiness because I was against him posting his baby’s photos on Instagram.
He wants me to love his by force, yet he lives with the lady abroad and tells me he can’t do without his baby. He also wanted to post the baby’s pic on Instagram and I threatened him to make bad comments so his friends will see it. He got angry and blocked me on all his social media accounts and told me not to communicate him anymore that he will come home when he can. I rose up to that challenge and didn’t communicate with him. I stood my ground.
I just want to know if I am being selfish or fighting for my right. I just want to be respected, that’s all.
You are being selfish. After all you knew a woman was preggos for him before you went ahead to marry him. The earlier you start accepting that child as his, the better for you. The child is innocent and doesn’t know anything about your dramas.
Another concern I have is that you are not worried about the baby mama living with him, instead you are fighting an innocent child na wa oh.
You are being selfish hoohaa.
u bn childish
Dear Poster, I see no reason why you should be complaining now, cos you allowed it in the first place. The moment you decided to go ahead and marry him despite knowing that he has a babymama very close to him, you gave up your right to complain over his love or actions towards the child. You should not expect less from a man who’s seeing his first child! My advice for you is to calm down and just accept the matter as it is, cos the child and possibly her mother has come to stay. May God help you.