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”Why women like me attract damaged men . . .” Actress Dayo Amusa Gives Deep Insight Into Toxic Relationships

”Why women like me attract damaged men . . .” Actress Dayo Amusa Gives Deep Insight Into Toxic Relationships

One of Nollywood’s popular actresses and singer, Dayo Amusa, in a long post on Instagram has shared some life lessons explaining why women like her attract cheating and damaged men.

33 year old Amusa also revealed why she’s failed in a lot of her relationships.

She shared a photo from her Dubai vacation and wrote;

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”I used to be a fixer. I stayed in bad relationships, attracting the same type of men—men who needed to be fixed.

I know so many women in the same position. We attract cheating men, commitment-phobic men, emotionally unavailable men, emotionally damaged men, alcoholics, drug abusers, narcissists and sociopaths.

It’s like we are a magnet for men whose pieces are shattered all over the place. And for some reason, we feel compelled to put these pieces back together.

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But I must admit, I have failed every single time.

I never gave myself a chance to sit back and question my motives. Instead of asking why I constantly felt obligated to pick up someone else’s broken pieces, I ran to pick them up without a second thought.

Being selfless made me think that coming second didn’t matter because I was putting someone else’s worthiness first. And in the end, rank doesn’t matter, right?

I realized that the reason I was attracting these types of men was because I believed I could save them.

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As selfless, thoughtful, giving women, we think we will be “that woman”—the one who will change them. We think we can turn a cheater into a loyal boyfriend.

We think we can help him walk away from the drugs and alcohol. We believe we can help him get over his commitment issues and aim for a stable future with us. We trust that we can get rid of the emotional baggage that he has been carrying for years.

We attract these men because we believe they need us. And to leave them would be selfish, insensitive and ruthless.

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The sad news is, we constantly blame ourselves when they don’t change. Every time they fail us, we think it’s because we failed them.

Their hold on us becomes stronger; they keep us around knowing they have nothing to offer.
It’s just my view. What’s your view??? Let’s interact #JustMyView#JMVwithDayoAmusa#TAO#millionshadesoftao.”

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Fixing a broken man is a thing we ladies should learn to put a stop to, my opinion.

The best is yet to come dear. You will surely laugh last!

Photo credit: Instagram


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  • She’s so right. I can totally relate. I have said to myself no more broken men. I am broken myself and I need fixing. She’s earned my respect with this piece.

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