I need an advise on how to handle this issue. My hubby is fond of this attitude that is really depressing me. He often pretends to be drunk so I can undress him.
Meanwhile he is not a good friend of alcohol. Out of 100 percent, he can only stand 15 percent or maximum, 2 percent. Anything more than this makes him drunk to the point of throwing up. He knows his limit that why I said he’s fond of pretending to be drunk.
Some days, he’ll go out with friends and when he’s back, he’ll ask me for food and would fall asleep before I finish preparing his meal. If I wake him up to eat, he’ll say that he’s no more hungry. He’ll then ask me to lie down and if I refuse, he’ll hold me down tight so I can and then force himself on me.
Afterwards, he’ll doze off and I’ll end up pulling off his clothing and shoes and force him to take a bath. This started since we got married, about a year and two months ago. and
I thought he would stop but now I don’t think he’ll ever if I don’t try to stop it. He’s continued doing this. I get angry and ask him if he’s not the same person who drove himself home, opened and locked the gate and protector properly before coming in.
Last night, he did the same thing again. He told me was hungry and I prepared his food but was asleep before his food was ready. I was angry. I did not undress him, didn’t even take off his watch nor his shoes. I just went to bed.
When he woke up around 2.a.m to take his bath, he told me “ma-ma nawaoo…you did not even help me to pull my clothes and you let me sleep like this.” My reply was that I am sorry. Though I don’t like him sleeping like that, I am so tired of all undressing him even when I was pregnant.
Did I do the right thing to let him sleep in his clothes? Does anyone have any idea on how to settle this?