Should I tell my cheating husband about my boyfriend?
I’m 29 years-old and a mother of three lovely children. We live in Nigeria.
My hubby has being cheating openly for a very long time now. I have seen him on several occasions but he would beg for forgiveness, would forgive him but he never stopped.
One day, my friend invited us over for dinner with her family and friends. Hubby couldn’t go because of work, so I went without him. At the party, I noticed there was a man who kept looking at me with a very unusual smile on his face. Well sorry to say this, he was so cute though. He continued smiling at me so much that I got confused. Meanwhile, for sometime now, hubby has refused to sleep with me. He’s always claiming to be tired.
So, I stepped out for a bit to see a friend of mine who called to say she was in the neighbourhood. As I stepped out, this guy followed me. We started talking and with the alcohol in my system and not having had sex for a long time made me melt for this guy. I tried my best to hide these facts from him but one thing led to another and we kissed outside there cause it was dark. *Don’t judge*.
When I got home that day, it was that kiss I was thinking of. One day, he called me that he has a gift for me and asked to send my account details which I did. Later in the day, I received a notification from the bank that the sun of N4.6 million has been deposited in my account. I was shocked. When called me to confirm if I had received it, I asked him why he sent it. He said it was to show me how sorry he was for kissing me the other night. I was astonished. I told him I would send the money back but he said he would send it back again. I transferred the money to my sister’s account, so hubby wouldn’t know. On my birthday, he sent me some more money. Well, he works at Shell, so money isn’t a problem. Money is not also a problem for me cause I have money and hubby has money too.
One day, hubby got me angry with his cheating attitude and I left the room for him and went to another room. This guy started chatting me up like he knew I was angry. That night, we arranged to meet and we had sex. Sorry to say this: but the guy was good. He gave me a head which hubby never does. He was something else. So after that day, we started seeing each other often. And he kept on sending me money. My problem now is that this guy has fallen in love with me even though I warned him not to. I have told him to stop contacting me but he won’t stop. I don’t know if I should open up and tell my hubby about him. Would he treat the matter the way I have being treating his with his numerous girlfriends? Please advice me as I don’t know what to do.