A South African Polygamist Dad-Of-10, Musa Mseleku Speaks On The Pros And Cons Of Polygamy Through A Book
Polygamy might not be for everyone, but according to a South African man, Musa Mseleku; it is not as bad as it seems.
Polygamy is a form of marriage where a man marries two or more women. In other words, when a man marries more than one wife, he is practicing polygamy.
Mseleku, a prominent Businessman who is one of the most famous polygamist in South Africa with his 4 wives became a household name with his reality show. He however decided that television exposure was not enough, he went a step further to write a book on polygamy which he titled, “Life And Polygamy.”
According to IOL, the wealthy man wrote the book titled, “Life and Polygamy”, which aims to address the misconceptions surrounding the practice of polygamy and alter how people view it.
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The 44-year-old polygamist added that it was important for people, especially men; to understand polygamy since so many women have been left broken because of it.
Mseleku‘s book not only highlights the good in this type of marriage, but also the bad side of it. He added that he wanted to educate men who wants polygamy to understand that you can’t bounce between wives when things are not going great.
“With the book, I am repositioning the idea of polygamy because over the years women in polygamous marriages have been abused, undermined and made to feel like they have shortcomings. This is a sensitive issue especially since it women’s month, some women have been broken because of polygamy,” he said.
“The book looks at the good and bad sides of these marriages. Its to teach men that being in these marriages doesn’t mean doing what you feel like doing – just because you have had a fight or misunderstanding with one wife you can just walk out knowing you are going to another wife”.
He explains that it’s not all the time that first wives will agree to a man taking a second a wife and that when a first wife expresses unhappiness at the idea, a husband should understand her.
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“A man should be able to give reasons for wanting to take another wife and the first wife needs to understand these and if she doesn’t a man should understand.
Because the idea is not to make her feel any less of a woman and a man’s reasons for taking another wife should not be based on what the first wife has done or not done- it should be about strengthening the family,” he said.
“I want to show men that you can be in a polygamous relationship and also be considerate. My wives impose restrictions on me. I have to be home an hour earlier than them so I can prepare to spend time with all of them,” he said.
My wives have nothing but love and praise for me,” he added.
One of his wives, Thobile said:
“I knew what I was getting into and didn’t have a problem with it. I also come from a polygamous family.”
She further said that the other wives are like sisters to her and they all rely on each other for advice and help.
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