Tess Holiday is a fiercely outspoken model and author who describes herself on Instagram as “Plus Model, Wife, Mom, Feminist.” The mom-of-two reminds us self-love is the most important thing.
Her latest post about body positivity is a testament to her commitment to remind other women and moms especially to love the bodies we’re in and treat ourselves with love and kindness.
“I snapped this yesterday after my workout because I felt cute! I never share these photos to prove anything, but it’s a conscious choice to share the ways I move my body because it de-stigmatizes the notion that plus size folks aren’t healthy/active,” Holiday wrote next to an adorable gym selfie pictured below.
But the bold and beautiful mom was quick to point out that not everyone is able to move their bodies, and being “healthy” by going to the gym shouldn’t be a standard for self-love.
The American model, blogger, and make-up artist pointed out that there are some people who can’t workout due to their health and questioned, “Are we only granting self love these days to those that are perceived as ‘healthy?’” Holiday said she’s often told to speak about a person’s physical health but what’s more important is how we love ourselves.
Read her post below…
”I snapped this yesterday after my workout because I felt cute! I never share these photos to prove anything, but it’s a conscious choice to share the ways I move my body because it de-stigmatizes the notion that plus size folks aren’t healthy/active.
For me, I work out because it helps me in many ways, but what about those that can’t? Non able bodied folks or those that have illnesses that prevent them from doing so? Does that mean that they aren’t allowed to love their bodies? Are we only granting self love these days to those that are perceived as “healthy”?
I’m told often that it’s my obligation as a public figure to educate folks that physical health is more important than self love. But really, my only obligation to y’all is to live a life as authentic and transparent as possible.
I will continue to show that loving your body in whatever state, is vital. You can work out all you want, but if you hate yourself, no amount of weight loss will fix that. If you build a house on sand, it’s gonna wash away right? I say that as someone who in the past, has treated my body horribly.
I said unkind things to it, and I allowed people who were closest to me to treat me as less than because of my size. I have tried to shrink myself metaphorically, to be invisible, to not stand out or take up space because I was so ashamed of my body. Why? Because I didn’t know it was okay to love myself, AS IS.
This kind of self love doesn’t happen overnight, and trust me, I NEVER thought I would have my “gym bros” (I lovingly call them this) @chrisfdsilva @getfitbyrob @willy_beamen by my side, keeping me accountable in ways I’ve asked them to. I never thought I would love going to the gym, but when I get to see my bros, it it makes my day.
I’m also grateful to be working out with Chris while @massy.arias is busy running an empire. She has taught me so much, but it’s my job to implement what I’ve learned from her because this fat baby bird has to leave the nest eventually!
If you take anything away from this be kind, always be the bigger person (in my case that’s easy!), treat others with compassion & realize that you deserve to love yourself as is. #effyourbeautystandards.”
Self-love doesn’t mean every day is perfect or that there won’t be setbacks but reminding us why the journey is so important. The American star who has been modeling for over 10 years has spoken out in the past, reclaiming the word “fat,” accepting our post-baby body, and has shared her struggles with mental health, all in an attempt to connect with others and let her fans know we’re are not alone.
Tess also shared some of the awful, hurtful messages she receives on a daily basis which only serve to fuel her fire. One such message says, “You’re nasty. I am disgusted. I feel bad for your husband who has to fuck you. I bet he cheats on you.” Imagine being filled with so much hate that you’d take time out of your day to insult a total stranger.
She also shared one of the more supportive notes she’s received.
Holliday admitted she’s struggled in the past, but reminds us that “this kind of self love doesn’t happen overnight. If you take anything away from this be kind, always be the bigger person (in my case that’s easy!), treat others with compassion & realize that you deserve to love yourself as is.”
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