Clergyman Kingsley Okonkwo Writes To Single Women Who Are Considering A Relationship/Marriage With A Bachelor In His 40s
Nigerian relationship coach, counselor, and author, Kingsley Okonkwo shared valuable insights and advice for single women aspiring to get married.
Specifically, his advice shared on X, focused on men in their 40s who are still single. He shed light on the reasons why some of these men remain unmarried, particularly when they pursue relationships with women significantly younger than themselves, often a decade younger.
While the renowned Nigerian pastor acknowledged that this may not apply to every individual, he emphasized its relevance in many cases.
The clergy who is the founder and lead pastor of David’s Christian Centre, urged single women to exercise caution when considering a relationship with a man in his 40s, emphasizing the need for thorough research and careful consideration before committing to a lifelong partnership.
The pastor’s intention is not to vilify these individuals but to promote wise decision-making among women seeking marriage.
His full post reads:
“If a guy is in his forties and not married, there’s usually a reason, especially when he is particularly trying to date ladies 10yrs plus younger.
Yes I know it might not be so ALL of the time but it is so ALOT of the time. I’m not demonising them but if you are about to date someone like this, please do your due diligence
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In response to his statement, some men have voiced their disagreement, stating that they simply haven’t found the right woman. Others have argued that the same caution should apply to women as well.
However, women who have dated men in their forties seemed to agree with Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo’s statement, as evident in the comment section.
@Anthony wrote:
And if a woman is 30 or 40 but not married, what should the men do? Make una let black men breath. You never see white girls keep bashing men like this. Only in black culture. Black women will bash men, black men will also bash their fellow men. Haba.
@GoldMatchet commented:
Reasons like what my man?? because am in my 40s already only have money as my major reason.. am ready to marry but my money isn’t ready yet…. Kam biakwa 🚶
@DANI added:
A man in his 40s who dates women 10 years or younger is looking for a puppet.
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@Manu replied DANI:
Not necessarily, if a man marries early and is poor people will blame him, if he stays longer he will still be blamed. But this pastor forgot that when a man is in his 40s it becomes difficult to find a wife In his age grade since most may likely be married, naturally he will have more options with younger ladies. By the way human beings are generally evil just few angels so even if you marry an 18yr old evil boy it wouldn’t make the marriage better because he is younger. Even the situation of the country is making many people remain single for longer, marriage and kids is a lot of work if finance is low. But Jesus never married so this fat man should go get a proper job and stop making free money for talking and writing all the time. He should focus on tackling the government so things can get better.
@Ganduje added:
I wss hoping this wife.fucker will.give some reasons instead leaving blanks. So fool even at that you want the 40 plus yr old to marry his mate wey don dey near menopause. Ashole for some it is just the drama the activities involved , the introverted to a fault , may be psychological or as simple as they are not just into marriage crap, some so because of the push from ladies, left to men we would rather have one partner, you may call it wife but because no ceremonies make we leave am as partners. This idiot who has fucked so many cunts who go for his social events.
@Anonymous:
This pastor is factoring the negative impact of NIGERIA on her citizens. Youths in their productive age have no work. How do you expect them to have a family early ? What about university strike that delay students graduation ?? A 4 year course is 7 year in Nigeria….. This pastor needs to STOP talking right now. I thought he had wisdom