A Nigerian man @Satirony caused quite a buzz on Twitter after he took to the micro-blogging app to share his thoughts about marriages in Nigeria.
According to the married man, marriages were built to benefit men way more than women, therefore a conscious man should take cognizance of the imbalance and do what he has to do to ‘overcompensate’ for the injustice that patriarchy has already burdened marriages with from inception. Heexplained that the tradition of suppressing women in marriages was handed down several generations and the modern man must recognise the problem for what it is, if marriages are to thrive and serve their true purpose in these delicate times.
@Satirony who didn’t state if he was a dad yet said he is happily married, and explained that men need to make conscious efforts to see to it that they are doing more to make up for the unseen things that their wives are most likely doing.
Noting that many Nigerian parents just like his are guilty of marriages where the woman is doing the most to keep the marriage thriving while the men just relax because patriarchy has enabled them for decades.
Read the full thread below:
Marriage betweeen a man and woman was built in a way that benefits men far more than women. This is well studied. If you’re a man marrying a woman, you need to be cognizant of this and make sure you *overcompensate* in order to make things as egalitarian as possible.
I emphasize overcompensating because there are aspects of relationships between men and women that far more often than not result in women doing more, because we live in a patriarchal and misogynistic society.
So you need to make sure you’re consciously doing more to compensate for the unseen things that she will most likely be doing.
And this is especially true in societies in which women also work outside of the home (so the past several decades in most Western societies).
And I refuse to have a dynamic that my parents, like a lot of late Baby Boomers, had. One in which both the man and woman work outside the house, but the woman still does most of the child rearing and cleaning at home.
I know somebody is eventually gonna assume I’m saying this with ulterior motives and ask something stupid like “did she pick you?” The answer is yes, she did. I’m married. Now go reflect on your inadequacies as a partner.
