Rebecca Hanscombe, 45, claims she experienced a full body orgasm while having her now 8-year-old daughter, Arwen, and tells women that birth doesn’t have to be painful.
The mum-of-one told DailyMail: ‘I felt so strong, so alive, so empowered that my whole body rippled with orgasmic, sensual feelings. Birth can and should be a celebration of our bodies. After all we are designed to make babies as is every other living creature in the world. It is a natural progression to be able to surrender into the natural flow of birth in all its orgasmic potential.’
Rebecca discovered she was pregnant at 37, and was inspired to have a birth that was both natural and orgasmic by a classic book about home birth called Spiritual Midwifery by Inna May Gaskin.
The book says producing the pleasure hormone oxytocin will increase the potential for orgasm and advises having your partner help you increase production by stimulating the nipples and clitoris during labour, if possible.
However, Rebecca’s then partner was squeamish about blood, so she knew he wouldn’t be much use in the delivery room. Instead she chose her friend Katie as her birthing partner to support her during the delivery. She spent the first 24 hours of labour at home with Katie.
Rebecca, a teacher of ecstatic dance, said her knowledge of getting in tune with her body helped her prepare for the orgasmic birth.
She said: ‘I danced a little every day to connect with my body. I took antenatal yoga classes, I practiced the many breathing techniques nearly every day. As I dozed off to sleep, I listened to a lovely recording saying having a baby is the most natural thing in the world in the soothing. But most of all I told myself pain is only pain if you call it that. If you reframe sensations to be interesting and intense, sensual even, it makes you feel stronger. We played great music, giggled a lot, got busy with a yoga ball, stayed in the bath for hours, and practiced the breathing every time a contraction came on. I even managed to sleep for six hours.’
Next morning, they went to the birthing centre where her waters were broken by a midwife. But by the time she’d been in labour almost 36 hours, there was still no sign of the baby.
She continued: ‘I knew that if I didn’t give birth now they would make me have a caesarean,’ she says. ‘I hadn’t come this far to give up. So I just totally surrendered and relaxed, breathed and went with my body. I connected with my animal nature, I felt the pulse of life through my body the most amazing feeling. I remember thinking this is just the most beautiful thing. It is the most natural thing in the world. I felt so strong, so alive and so empowered that my whole body rippled with orgasmic sensual feelings. It was like my whole body went into this state of “wow”. It was a full body experience, rather than just a vaginal experience. It was very exciting.’
Her baby arrived few moments later. She recalled: ‘She crawled up my belly, looked deeply into my eyes, found the boob, stopped crying, drank for a few moments then slept. I fell so deeply into unconditional love for her, it was the most profound experience of my life and I’m so glad I was not drugged…Birth doesn’t have to be painful.’
Mums, what do you think?