You love your husband/wife and you’d never be unfaithful to him or her. However, you may be unaware of other ways you are being unfaithful. If these actions continue, you may find yourself almost making that mistake that you never intended to.
Unfaithfulness often comes in disguise and it takes a discerning partner to spot the difference and put themselves in check. Here are 4 ways you may be cheating, and you don’t even know it.
Having a little playful fun at the office with a co-worker can’t be too bad, you may think, but avoid it like the plague. It’s dangerous!!. If someone flirts with you, ignore it. What falls into the category of flirting? Here’s one explanation of what flirting is. “[It] usually involves speaking and behaving in a way that suggests a mildly greater intimacy than the actual relationship between the parties would justify, though within the rules of social etiquette, which generally disapproves of a direct expression of sexual interest. This may be accomplished by communicating a sense of playfulness or irony… Body language can include flicking the hair, eye contact, brief touching, etc.”
Married people should never engage in this type of behavior with anyone other than their spouse. It is a full-on form of unfaithfulness even if nothing physical is actually happening. The one you’re flirting with may take it as an invitation and pursue a relationship you never truly intended.
2. Confiding in the opposite gender
When you pour out your troubles to someone of the opposite gender you are putting yourself in a vulnerable position. It may seem harmless. After all, you just needed a shoulder to cry on. If you’ve got a problem, talk about it with your spouse. If that seems far-fetched, based on arguments and occasional quarrels in a marriage, try a trusted relative, pastor, or therapist. Not someone who may consider this an invitation for intimacy. Even if it doesn’t start that way, too often it ends that way. It’s a form of unfaithfulness.
3. Spending time alone with someone else
What appears to be an innocent lunch out with someone of the opposite sex or stopping by for a chat at that someone’s home or office without your spouse knowledge can create room for a lot of things. You or the other person may say nothing will happen, we are both adults. The point is, it’s not appropriate. Go home and spend that time with your spouse.